Why a Narcissist Refuses to Travel with the Group
Why a Narcissist Refuses to Travel with the Group
I noticed something recently.
We had a plan to travel together in a van. A big group. Around fifteen to twenty people.
Everyone was excited. Except one person. He immediately said no. He wanted to come in a separate car.
At first it looks harmless. Just a preference. But when you understand narcissistic patterns, this behaviour makes perfect sense.
A van means a shared experience.
Everyone talks. Everyone laughs. The energy moves naturally.
Nobody is more important than the other. A narcissist cannot handle that.
They cannot sit quietly and blend in. They cannot allow the moment to run without them controlling it.
In their own car, everything is in their hands.
The music. The mood. The people who sit with them. The timing. The route.
The whole setup becomes their personal stage. And when the attention is not enough for them, they can leave anytime.
Separate cars give them that escape button. They do not like being tied to a group plan.
There is also something deeper.
Being a passenger in a van means letting someone else drive.
Letting someone else set the pace. They cannot be part of someone else’s flow.
They need to feel like the one who decides. Even in something as small as a group trip.
Sometimes they even manage to pull a few people into their car.
This creates a special group and an ordinary group. It gives them importance. It makes them feel above the collective event.
This is why they refuse the van. It is not about comfort or convenience. It is about power. Attention. Control. And the need to stay separate from anything that makes everyone equal.
If you have seen this behaviour before, trust what you felt.
These small decisions reveal who they really are.
Dr Dhivya Pratheepa
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