Why does he even get married?

If he can’t handle emotional closeness…

If he just wants multiple flings…

You might think — Why marry at all?



Why not just stay single and play around?
Why get married and suffer?

Good question.

It’s because narcissists don’t marry for love.
They don’t marry for intimacy.

They marry for control.
They marry for guaranteed supply.

See, flings are fun — but they can walk away.
A wife?
She’s socially locked in.

There’s family pressure.

There’s emotional investment.
There might be kids.
There are shared finances.

All of this makes it harder for her to leave.

So marriage gives them the maximum supply, with minimum accountability.

They get the social badge.
“Look at me, I’m the perfect husband.”
It feeds their image.

Inside the marriage?

They now control your time.
Your body.
Your emotions.
Your life.

You will try harder.
You will chase more.
You will beg for scraps.

They know that.

So marriage isn’t about building a life together.
It’s about locking you in.
It’s about securing supply.

And once you’re in?
They start resenting you.
Because now you have needs.
Now you expect connection.
Now you want intimacy.

And they can’t give that.

So they start punishing you for wanting what they can’t provide.

They chase marriage for the benefits.
But they run from the responsibility.

💬 If you feel this is your story, you can WhatsApp me at 9443088596. I’m here when you’re ready to talk.


With warmth,
Dr. Dhivya Pratheepa
Somatic Trauma-Informed Abuse Recovery Coach

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