Notes from a Trauma Whisperer

 If One "No" Makes Them Leave—It Was Never Real You say no . You honor yourself. And suddenly— poof —they disappear. It’s not fair . It’s not kind . And it’s not what you would’ve done if the roles were reversed. But here’s the truth: If a single boundary erases the entire relationship… It wasn’t a relationship. It was a transaction. And your "yes" was the currency. You didn’t lose them. You finally saw them. Yes, it hurts. Because you loved with sincerity. But don’t you dare let that harden your heart . You are not "too much." You are not "too sensitive." You are not "too giving." You’re just walking through life with your heart switched ON —and that’s rare. Powerful. Precious . It doesn’t need to be shut down. It needs to be protected. Rewrite the Narrative ❌ "If I say no, people leave." ✅ "If I say no, the right people stay—and the wrong ones reveal themselves." What Happens When You Chase Them? 1. You Over...

  5 Signs You Have Unresolved Trauma That’s Affecting Your Nervous System (Even If You’re ‘Doing Everything Right’) You meditate. You eat clean. You go to therapy. You say your affirmations, drink your celery juice, and journal your gratitude. And yet… Something still feels off . You're tired of being tired. You're frustrated that nothing seems to stick. You wonder if maybe it’s just you. But what if it’s not you? What if it’s your nervous system —still carrying unresolved trauma that logic can’t reach? Let’s break it down. 1. You keep running into resistance—no matter how hard you try. You take two steps forward… and three confused sidesteps backward. You can’t focus. You lose steam. You start things with passion and end them with guilt. Despite all the effort, you feel stuck in molasses—mentally foggy, unmotivated, and exhausted by your own inconsistency. This isn’t laziness. It’s a sign of a dysregulated nervous system still caught in survival mode. 2. You...

  How a Regulated Nervous System Helps You Handle Life Like a Boss (Without Losing Your Mind) We often think emotional regulation is for monks, yoga teachers, or people who drink green juice unironically at 6 AM. But let’s get real. Nervous system regulation isn’t a luxury—it’s your secret weapon. At work. At home. In love. Because life will throw curveballs. The question is: Will you react… or respond? Let’s explore how your nervous system shows up in everyday moments—and what changes when it’s regulated. 1. At Work: When the Deadline is Brutal and Your Boss is Breathing Fire You open your inbox. There it is. A long, slightly passive-aggressive email. A deadline that makes your spine tense up. A meeting invite with a title like “Urgent Review.” If You’re Dysregulated: You feel attacked—even if it’s just feedback. You go into freeze mode or try to people-please your way through it. Your brain fogs up, you forget your words in meetings, or you spend hours o...